Contued... They are writing these books having no clue what the hell they are talking about. When my 3 year old says NO i say YES and he is going to do what I say. You don't have to abuse a child to get through to them, But I for one think the whole time out let's put em in a corner is plain bull sooner or later that kid is going to laugh at you. So it's stressfull raising all these kids even though i would not trade it for anything in the world each day is a new adventure and to watch them grow is a joy they grow to fast. But my 14 year old as much as I love him is going to bald me. This residential program is a last resort and I'm there.